← Testing Your Bond Step 1 of 11 9% Step 1: Trust Fall In the trust fall, one partner is blindfolded and stands several inches in front of their mate. Their partner stands behind them with their arms extended outwards. The blindfolded partner must then allow themselves to fall backwards, trusting that their mate will catch them. If the partner falls without a hesitation then your partner trusts you. Step 2: Communication Origami Let's test your communication level with your partner using the below activity: Give one sheet of standard-sized paper to your partner. Tell your partner that you will be giving them step-by-step instructions on how to fold the paper into an origami shape. Inform your partner that they must keep their eyes and mouth closed as they follow; they are not allowed to look at the paper or ask any clarifying questions. Start giving instructions to fold the paper into the origami shape of your choice. Once completed, let your partner open his/her eyes and compare their shape with the intended shape. The more similar the intended shape, greater the communication among yourselves! Step 3: IntimacyWhen I think about my sex life, I feel... * It’s good enough but I don’t have time to worry about it too much I’m not happy with the sex in my relationship but I can’t express that Worried that my friends and everyone else has more and better sex than me I don’t have sex very often and that works for both of us most of the time I have a satisfying sex life that works for me and my partner For me, sex is really... Something I try to get out of whenever possible Something I don’t have in my relationship A way of elevating our relationship above just being ‘housemates’ Satisfaction and pleasure Intimacy and connection to my partner When I think about ways of boosting the intimacy in our relationship... * I don’t think it’s possible – our sex life is what it is I don’t know how to talk to my partner about it I’d appreciate some tips and techniques but I’m not sure where to start I try to talk to my partner about what I’d like but sometimes I get a bit embarrassed We enjoy coming up with new things to try When it comes to sex, my partner... * Isn’t interested and won’t talk to me about it Gets annoyed and has sex reluctantly Is too busy and there are too many pressures on our time to make it a priority Is usually happy to have sex Makes time for us to be intimate When we have sex, I feel... * Bored and disconnected from my partner It’s more for my partner than for me Under pressure to perform and tend to just go through the motions It’s enjoyable but I want to try new things Emotionally connected to my partner and we have fun The biggest obstacle to our sex life is... * I just can’t be bothered and it’s very low priority My partner makes excuses a lot of the time that s/he’s not in the mood We have hardly any privacy in our home We’d like to be closer, but life worries and pressures get in the way We usually make an effort and create the space to be together When it comes to broaching the subject of sex in our relationship, I... * Change the subject and clam up Get irritated that my partner is bothering me with this topic again! Want to work things out, but we just end up arguing Feel that we try to make it a priority to talk about how we could improve things, but get distracted by other worries Feel we talk a lot and it keeps us close and connected When it comes to expressing other ways of being close and intimate with each other, my partner and I... * Don’t really do anything Have mechanical sex and that’s enough Tell each other that we love each other Try to get into the habit of having regular hugs Tend to hold hands, talk, have a laugh and cuddle often HiddenNumber You are Highly satisfied in your relationship. Don't doubt yourself or your partner. You have a beautiful bond which will lead to a great future ahead You are Moderately satisfied in your relationship. This is a pivotal time in your relationship. There are many strengths you can build upon, but there are also some weaknesses that need your attention. One way to start this is by building a Love Map of your partner. Need some help? MantraCare can help you to connect with a counsellor based on your needs. You are Not satisfied in your relationship. Your relationship could stand some improvement in this area. Perhaps you never had the time or the tools to really get to know each other. In either case, by taking the time to learn more about your partner now, your relationship will become much stronger. MantraCare can help you to connect with a counsellor based on your needs.